Friday, July 1, 2016

Just Stop It Already

My lovies, just stop it already....

Stop comparing yourself to others. Man, woman or child. Each one as individual as a snow flake. Each one with strengths, weaknesses, dreams, fears, insecurities, all their own. You are you, you don't look, think, see, sound or radiate the same energy as anyone else and you are not supposed to.

Stop feeling like you need to compete with others if you happen to share similar gifts. The world is vast. There is need for your gift, my gift, and everyone else's gift. Life is not a popularity contest to be won. You don't have to be the leader of the pack, just contribute and share from your heart. We are in it together.

Stop airbrushing yourself. Please. No more photo shopped or perfectly angled pictures. If you are going to take a photo or selfie, OWN it. Look like you, not some fuzzy, glittering, altered version of you. I know we live in a time and place when the standards and expectations for physical beauty are unrealistic and ridiculous. I know we all feel pressure to look a certain way. To have good skin, and full silky hair and straight white teeth. To glow and radiate youth and health. But let us be part of changing those false ideals. Let us be beautifully authentic. Love yourself for who you are. Find comfort and healing in that.

Stop beating yourself up. None of us are perfect. We make mistakes, thank God. What good would we be if we didn't? We wouldn't learn anything. We wouldn't grow. We wouldn't journey. We wouldn't discover. We would have nothing to share that meant anything. Think about what you are thinking and how you are talking to yourself. Be kind to your precious self. Give yourself grace and encouragement.

Stop taking it all so personally. Wow, this is huge. We are all living in our own dream. We are all existing together in this world, but carrying our own perceptions, walking our own paths, learning our own lessons. The guy in front of you on the freeway who is not using his blinker and driving way too slow....he doesn't have it out for you. He isn't just trying to piss you off, and even if he's not because of who you are. It has nothing to do with you. Don't take it personally, wish him well, take a breath and go around. The person on social media who is blasting all the working mom's for their selfishness and disregard for their children's well being, isn't doing it because of you. It has nothing to do with you. Even if you are a working mom. You know your truth. What will it do to feed that nasty fire? How will it make you feel to blast her back and take what she is saying personally, to get into a back and forth argument over the validity in her statement? When you give it power, you accept it as yours. Scroll past that shit.

Stop running yourself ragged. Take a breather. I know you have so much to do, and feel like if you stop, you will never get it all done, and then you'll have even more to do tomorrow. You have lists to check off and time lines to adhere to. That is not always a bad thing, but if you don't give yourself a little bit of time every day, to breathe and sit in silence and gratitude, to talk a short mindful walk, to listen to music, be creative, enjoy your loved ones.... you are not living, you are trying not to drown.

Stop living in yesterday and tomorrow. Just for today, live in today. Live in today's blessings and hardships. The present moment is all we really truly have. The present is a lot easier to handle than reliving the past or trying to predict the future.

Stop yourself from being unkind. Do your best to live from your heart. To extend love. We all have grumpy days. Days where we don't want to be nice, when we feel out of patience and maybe frustrated or angry. Let us acknowledge those feelings and deal with them. Let us not take it out on the people around us just because the feelings are uncomfortable for us. Let us think before we speak and keep our words kind, honest and useful.

With so much love,

1 comment:

  1. Love❤️ Love ❤️ Love ❤️ So much wisdom and Truth in this piece.